"The Benefits of Dancing"

Perspectives on the Choice You Made to Learn to Dance

Were you aware that everything you do in life is a relationship? You have a relationship to your family and friends, but you also have a relationship to the food you eat, the money you spend and your possessions. Everything in your life requires a relationship and the better you are at "relating" and understanding what makes a productive relationship, the better your life is and the more control you have over it. Control of your life depends on one thing - the choices you make about how you are going to relate to every issue that presents itself. You learn these skills and more while you learn how to dance.

Some More Obvious Benefits:

What choice does Hollywood make when they want to portray a most romantic scene between two people, what do they choose for the most sensuous, the most intimate and sweet? What do we do when we celebrate? What do people do when they are happy or when a football player makes a touch down? THEY DANCE!!!

When you are at a dance or where people are dancing - who do you watch and admire? Not just because they might be good at it but because they are getting the most out of the event? How many times have you gone out and wished you could dance well and have as much fun as the ones who can? Now you can!!!

Fun exercise!!!!!!!!!!! Lots of people have fun doing things that are good exercise, that also has a social outlet that goes along with it. But how many include romantic interaction with the opposite sex and how many cost so little and require less time to do it well as dancing?

Sweating. Yes, we include this because dancing does make you sweat. And sweating is nature's way of detoxifying the body. With all the junk food, and preservatives we eat - sweating is a good thing. However, we do suggest you take precautions to have this an inoffensive benefit.

Dancing Brings Out the Kid in You. Letting go and "Kicking Up Your Heels" is the best medicine for feeling low or just letting off steam.

You absolutely can not be sad or afraid after you go to a dance class or a dance. Go dancing and you simply can't stay down in the dumps. Also if you are tired this will energize you and bring you right up.

Being a Ham. We all have a little Ham in us. It is great to be the center of attention and it's hard to find ways to do that today in our competitive society. Nothing is more magic to people who can't dance than watching someone who can and you don't even have to able to do a lot of fancy steps to impress those who don't know how to.

Expressing yourself in a safe and fun environment. Dancing is self-expression to music and music reflects many moods and feelings. You can be happy and joyous one minute and sexy and sensuous the next with dancing - each dance style representing a different emotions. What great therapy, and its acceptable, harmless and productive.

Ladies, dancing gives you a great excuse to buy new and exciting clothes and gives everyone a chance to "dress up".

One of the great "feel good" hormone makers is my favorite - chocolate - and one other is "touching", which everyone needs. Touching is proven now to have great healing properties. One thing dancing is, is tactile and tactile in a safe, affectionate way. This is especially important to singles.

Balance - working hard all day and all the other energy drains we have on us by work, family, the home, etc., - doing something fun for yourself puts the energy back.

Expanded Social Life - dancers are happy people and great to be around. Many new friends can be made in this community - and they give you extended family. Parties, cruises, weddings, everything you do is more fun when you can dance.

Body Comfort - this is essential to feeling self-assured. Dancing helps you get comfortable with your body movement. The more comfortable you are, the more easily you can move through any daily activity, especially sports.

JUST FOR SINGLES

The dance community is one of the best places a single can be - primarily because it's a safe social environment. You don't need lots of fancy introduction lines or awkward conversation - just say "would you like to dance". You have a safe subject to discuss - dancing. And you can have fun - be tactile - be physical and it's SAFE. You get the chance to meet lots of fun loving people and it gives you a great extended family.

Suggestions - "Dancers" - love to dance and what you perceive from your non-dancer days as romantic, etc does not necessarily mean the same to a dancer. So be careful not to miss-interpret what is going on with these people. Do they want a relationship - of coarse, but what they really want is to dance and to dance with everyone. Try to mix it up even if you have a regular dance partner - it's a lot more fun and if you have a partner - it is expected that you share a little bit. Don't assume that because you are a beginner - if this is the case - that no one will dance with you. This is not true - all those "good" dancers are just happy that there are more new people to dance with. Just tell anyone who asks that you are just learning and jump right in. Guys - ask everyone you can to dance, even if you are a beginner - this is the way you learn more about leading and what it feels like to dance with ladies at different skill levels. Ask other singles in your class to MEET you at a practice party or a dance so you know you will have a least one person to dance with when you get there - dance with them and everyone else. Exchange phone #'s if its comfortable, so you can let partner know you can't make a class or call them up and see if they want to try a party or dance. Be sure you are giving the right messages. Don't ride with them - meet them there so you give them the message you only want to go dancing. Put a group of singles together to go somewhere and dance. Go to lots of different places to dance. If you are single and want to come to the dances alone - do it. You will see the same people and new ones all over. Keep going - these "regulars" are more familiar and comfortable to each other so you need to be persistent so you become a "regular".

EXCUSES - EXCUSES

Here is a list of excuses we hear all the time from people who are learning to dance but do not go out and dance.

"I'm not good enough yet and I don't want to look foolish." - You only get better if you do this more - it is a muscle memory thing and can only get better through repetition. If you were learning to play golf or tennis - you would be out there practicing. If you guys are afraid of not being perfect at this before you lay it on some lady - remember - the process is where the intimacy comes from and above all else - women want intimacy.

"I'm afraid if I go out dancing, I'll practice it wrong" - That's what our "Thursday Practice Parties" are for - the staff is there to help you. Besides - you have step pattern sheets to support you as well.

"I have other commitments on the weekends." - I have discovered that you find time for the things you want to do badly enough. Make a commitment to yourself to do this well, just like you would when I'm off. - What might those things be? I'll bet what ever they are, they took money, commitment and time - so what's the difference besides I'll bet none of them had all the benefits listed above.